Before we got married my mother-in-law gave me a book at my bridal shower called, "Married for Life" and she bookmarked a couple pages that were her fav. One was called, "You've got to have love, and you've got to know God.
The other page she bookmarked that I really like was called, "Believe that no matter what happens, things will work out right." I think all couples should read this excerpt with everything that's going on in the world.
It explains that most couples think that they have their entire lives mapped out. Then we run into delays and detours and we panic, but there's no need to panic when you turn to God. "I know the plans I have for you," declares the Lord, "plans to prosper you and not harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."
Then when we got married a dear friend told Matt and I that, "A couple that prays together stays together." We take all of those pieces of advice to heart. <3
We try to go to church as much as possible, you often here me say if it's in God's will this or that will happen. God knows that I understand he's the one in charge. It feels so much better now that I stopped trying to control everything.
I'm done stressing over unkind people and situations that still to this day have yet to change. That was one of the downs in our relationship. I would allow outside stressors to take over what was most important to me and that was being a wife and mother to my family.
Now that I have the church, my gram, Matt and me praying for me to not allow those things to rule my life, I have been so much more at ease, which in turns makes me a better wife and mother. :) Don't get me wrong, my weight still bothers me and one of these days soon I WILL have the willpower to be a healthier me.
Also, every night Matt and I make sure that we make time for us and talk about our days. We never go to bed angry and we make sure that we pray for our loved ones and even those who trespass against us. God wants what is best for us and I know as long as we keep him in charge he will make us stronger than ever. :)
Another great peice of advice that was given to us recently was that you can't worry about making everyone happy, because those people who care will understand and those who make a fuss will never be happy, so do what makes you and your girls happy. It's very true!
One of my faults is that I want to make everyone happy and I don't like to hurt people's feelings even though at times I tend to, but at the end of the day the only one that's not happy is me or Matt, so now we try to find a happy medium.
Last piece of advice that comes to mind is from my grams. She told me that you have to have date nights with just you and Matt, because one day it will be just you and Matt again. How true!
Before going out on our Anniversary dinner/movie date night 6/11/11
At Yough Lake 8/2010
We definately have been blessed these past 5 years!
Some other exciting things that have happened during our 5 years of being married:
Ethan turns 4! 11/2/08
Alaina's 1st time sled riding 1/102009
Alaina's 1st camp trip 7/24/09
Alaina in pappy's pool 7/7/09
10/15/2009 Alaina turns 2!
1st Family photos. December 2009
Bella gets baptized! 3/20/10
Bella's 1st time eating baby cereal 3/23/10
Alaina's 2nd fish Ariel 3/28/10
1st picnic with my girls 3/31/10
Bella's 1st Easter 4/4/10
Matt turns 28! 4/19/10
5/9/10 Mother's Day with Alaina and Bella
1st zoo trip with both Alaina and Bella June 3rd 2010
Matt's 1st Father's Day with Alaina and Bella 6/10/10
1st camp trip with both girls 6/2010
Alaina sleeps in her big girl bed! 8/17/10
The girls 1st airshow 9/11/10
The girls 1st time at Living Treasures 9/14/10
Bella turns 1! 9/21/10
With my girls on Bella's 1st b-day party
Bella is 1!
Alaina's 3rd Birthday pics
Alaina turns 3! 10/15/10
1st time to the pumpkin patch with both girls 10/2010
Ethan turns 6!
Matt get's his dream truck 10/21/10
Alaina's 1st time to the Nutcracker 12/2010
Alaina's 1st trip to Rosebrook to visit the residents 12/21/10
1st Christmas Eve with both girls 2010
2nd Christmas pics with Alaina and Bella 12/2010
With our girls on Christmas 2010
St. Patty's Day 2011
Matt and I had our 10 year Anniversary of being together. 4/6/11
At the circus 4/11/11
First Easter bunny pics with Alaina and Bella 4/2011
Alaina's first time driving in her mustang 4/27/11
The girls having a Royal tea party to celebrat Prince William and Kate's wedding 4/29/11
The girls 1st time at McConnells Mill on Mother's Day
5/8/11 Mother's Day
Alaina's legs fit in Diamond's stirrups! 5/28/11
1st swim this year 5/30/11
These are just a few good memories that I was able to capture. After going through my facebook albums, I can't help to thank God over and over, because I love my hubby so much and the life we created!
Our Anniversary was on Friday, so by time we got home all we wanted to do was relax, and that's what we did! On Saturday Matt and I went out for our Anniversary dinner and movie date. We had so much fun going to Outback Steakhouse for dinner and ended up going to see Hangover 2, since I was having a blonde moment when looking up the movie times for Bridesmaids haha. That was ok, it was still a funny movie.
The 5 year Anniversary gift tradition is wood. Matt and I were looking into buying a front door, but we need a custom size, so we are going to wait until next Spring. We ended up picking out a new computer desk though and yes it is wood. :) We almost got a new massaging recliner also, but after talking we would rather put that money into painting the outside of the house this Summer. I can't wait to get started on that!
I can't beleive we have 5 years down! It's not much compared to many others, but hey we beat many celebrity marriages and so far I still enjoy being around my husband, so I think we are off to a great start haha! Happy 5 Year Anniversary Matthew! I love you so much!
With our lil cupcakes :)